Hi, I’m Angela (she/they)

I'm Angela, an LMHC. I don't work with every couple — I work with couples in high conflict, couples navigating infidelity, and couples who can't point to one reason they've drifted apart because it's actually twenty reasons, stacked up over years, that have hardened into disdain. That's a different repair job than "we stopped talking." Thirteen years in, I know how to find the thread under all that weight and help you both start pulling on it together — or help you figure out, clearly and without more damage, whether staying is the right call at all.

I'm trained in IFIO and PACT, I'm a Certified IFS therapist and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and I bring an attachment lens and Discernment Counseling into the room when a couple isn't even sure they want to be in the room. I don't just talk about your patterns — I work with what's happening in your body and your nervous system in real time, because most couples already know the story of their fight. What they don't have is a way out of the loop.

I was born and raised in NYC, the child of Chinese refugees from Vietnam. I have three kids and I'm slightly obsessed with dragging all of them on group camping trips and road trips to national parks — chaos included.

I welcome and support all couples, including QTBIPOC and kink/poly couples, and I work to make sure all individuals feel safe, respected, and understood.

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Supporting Neuro-Different Relationships

I also work with neurodiverse couples — where one or both partners are ADHD, autistic, or otherwise wired differently, and a lot of what looks like "not trying" or "not caring" is actually a mismatch in how you each process, communicate, and regulate. I help couples tell the difference between a character flaw and a nervous system difference, and build a relationship that works with both of your brains instead of against them.

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Core Values and Guiding Principles

01
Honesty over comfort. I'll tell you what I see, even when it's not what you want to hear. Couples in high conflict have usually had enough people tell them what they want to hear.

04
You decide the ending. My job isn't to save your relationship. It's to help you get clear enough to choose — together or apart — without regret about how you got there.

02
No villains. Even in infidelity work, I don't work from a good-partner/bad-partner story. Something broke down before the affair did — that's where the real work is.

05
Both of you are the client. I don't take sides, and I don't referee. My job is the relationship in the room, not proving who's right.

03
Pattern over incident. The blowup that brought you in usually isn't the problem. It's the hundredth rerun of a pattern that started years earlier.

06
Power isn't neutral. Whose voice takes up more room, whose needs get centered by default, who has more to lose by speaking up — I pay attention to that, not just to who's "communicating better" in the moment.

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Credentials

  • Bachelor of Arts in Sociology and Communications from University of Connecticut, Storrs

    Master of Arts in Counseling from Western Seminary

  • Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State, LH60907817

  • Discernment Counseling Training from the Doherty Institute, June 2026

    IFIO™ Advanced Training: Love, Autism and ADHD; June 2026; Relationship therapy training for couples are neuro-different

    All Genders Welcome Workshop: Internal Family Systems with Trans And/or NonBinary Communities; 2 hours; June 2026


    Restore, Reclaim, and Resource: A Weekend With Resmaa Menakem; June 2019; Somatic Abolitionism Training

    Perinatal Mood Disorders: Components of Care, November 2021, Sponsored by Postpartum Support International

    Advanced Perinatal Mental Health Psychotherapy Training, November 2021, Sponsored by Postpartum Support International

    Advanced Perinatal Mental Health Psychopharmacology Training, Nov 2021, Sponsored by Postpartum Support International

    Somatic Experiencing Beginning Level 1- August 2020

    Somatic Experiencing Beginning Level 2- August 2020

    Somatic Experiencing Beginning Level 3- Jan 2021

    Somatic Experiencing Intermediate Level 1 March 2021

    Somatic Experiencing Intermediate Level 2- June 2021

    Somatic Experiencing Intermediate 3- Oct 2021

    Somatic Experiencing Advanced Level 1- Feb 2022

    Somatic Experiencing Advanced Level 2- April, May, June 2022

    Group Supervision and Consultation for SEP Certificate from 2020-2024- 30 training hours

    Cultural Competence, Sept 2025

    Intimacy From the Inside Out, IFS Level 2, Feb, March, May, June 2025 (72 CE hours total)

    Telehealth Training, Washington Mental Health Counselors Association

    Law and Ethics of the Clinical Use of AI, 2024

    Working with Suicidal Clients, Wellspring Sept 2016

    Suicide Assessment and Prevention, Sept 2025, NetCE

    Becoming a Clinical Supervisor Training, May 2022

    Internal Family Systems Level 1 Training March 2023

    Healing Interventions for The Trauma Addiction Cycle, Cece Sykes, Nov 2025

    Ongoing regular individual and group consultations with Keisha Bryan

    PACT training, Level 1- 54 hours Sept 2016

    Ketamine Assisted Therapy Training, Fluence 2022

    Psychadelic Assisted Therapy Training, Fluency, 2022

  • Married for almost 20 years

    3 kids

    Business partner and homeschooling co parent with partner

    Mixed neurotype (I have adhd, partner doesn’t)

    Both have been in primary breadwinning positions and stay at home parent situations

  • I’ve been in private practice seeing individuals and couples since 2013

    I’ve been trained in prominent models of therapy: PACT, IFIO (internal family systems approach for couples), Discernment Counseling Approach by the Doherty Institute

    I am a certified Internal Family Systems therapist, but use a lot of different approaches tailored to your needs

    I am on the training staff team, where I train other new and advanced couples therapists in a group setting

My role isn't neutral

My role in discernment work isn't neutral. I stay neutral on the outcome — whether you stay together or separate isn't my call, and I won't push you toward either. But I'm not neutral on the conflict itself. In my experience, there's almost always a treatable path through what's breaking you apart, even when it doesn't feel that way from inside the disdain. Part of my job is to actually put that possibility in front of you — clearly, and without sugarcoating how hard the work would be — so that whatever you decide, you're deciding with the full picture instead of from exhaustion.

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You don't need another round of "communicate better." You need to know what's actually underneath the fight, and whether it's worth fighting for. That's the work I do. Let's find out together.

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